5 Things Your Kids Don’t Need Even in a Pandemic
It’s likely our kids aren’t pondering the direction of their life and what it should and should not entail during this pandemic. To some degree, it’s our job to do it for them especially when they are young. Instead of focusing on what more to give them, I encourage you to focus on not giving them these 5 things with the guarantee that it will change their life for the better. And, full disclosure, I borrowed some of this from bigger blogger, Jenny Rapson.
Your kids do not need…
1. A personal servant: your job is not to raise children but to raise adults. Most adults do not have someone following them around picking up their stuff, doing all their laundry and magically making meals appear. Most adults, even the really busy ones, do these things for themselves. It’s your job to teach your kids time management so they can take care of their stuff and become independent.
2. A Participation Trophy: your kids don’t need a ribbon or a trophy for showing up. They deserve a ribbon or a trophy for preparing and working hard. Giving our young ones awards for just being somewhere, no matter the amount of work they do or don’t put in encourages entitlement and takes away motivation to do their best. They are thinking, after all, no matter what they will get an award, right? What we want them to feel rewarded for is commitment, hard work and contributing to those around them.
3. An Overloaded Schedule: Iknow as adults you are busy and your days are full and at times you can barely manage it all even during a pandemic. News flash… your kids might feel the same way and they haven’t even finished high school. Kids need to learn how to incorporate down-time and self-care in to their schedules. So many of them have anxiety and it’s no surprise because they are going from one event to another, almost seven days a week on top of school. This takes away from family time and rest. This time of shelter-in-place can be a great time to reset. A time to revisit what your family needs as a new normal unfolds.
4. Custom-made Meals: brace yourself because for some of you this is going to be a tough one. Your kids need to eat what you make for dinner or go hungry. Back to the point of them not needing a personal servant. No more making different meals for each different family member.
5. More Real-World Knowledge Than They Are Ready For: there is a danger in sheltering our kids too much. There is also a danger in telling them too much about our harsh world too soon. As much as is possible, allow knowledge of the world to come in age-appropriate waves. A healthy way to expose them to the “real world” is through community service to those less fortunate than themselves. It’s good for them to know that there are people who need help and are suffering and that, even as kids, they can make a difference. But they don’t need to know about the atrocities, tragedies and heartaches happening in the world because they don’t have the emotional skills to cope with that information yet.
So, there you have it. Your kids will have happier, healthier and less stressful lives without these 5 things. Don’t give your kids too much, too soon. Even with the best of intentions, it’s not good for them now or for their future.
I understand that this sounds simple but it’s not easy. I am always here to help. Don’t hesitate to reach out if you have questions! Give us a call at (562) 537-2947.
Written by Lisa Smith